Q: Good morning Doctor. Thank you for the great work you are doing. May God reward you ma’am. Please, what’s the cause and treatment for pain while having sex and sperm discharge immediately after sex?
A: Pain during sexual intercourse is more common with women but can also happen in men. The first question above was sent in by a woman and the second one was sent in by a man. This condition is called dyspareunia in medicine.
Dyspareunia is a condition in which one experiences pain during or after sexual intercourse. In women, the cause may be due to:
• Vaginismus: a condition in which the vaginal muscles go into spasms when an attempt is made at penetration.
• Lack of adequate lubrication eg due to hasty foreplay etc
• Infections of the vagina (like candidiasis as mentioned in the question) or urinary tract can also cause pain during sexual intercourse.
• Injuries/wounds to the vagina
• Emotional issues like stress or emotional disconnect from partner.
• Fibroids around the vagina or cervix
In men, the cause of this problem could be due to:
• Infection of the urethra (the tube which conveys urine from the bladder out of the body and also conveys semen out during ejaculation)
• Infection of the prostate gland.
• Infections, some of which may be due to STI
• Emotional issues may also be involved eg feelings of guilt.
Treatment depends on cause. If due to infections, they have to be treated. If it’s due to lack of lubrication, that has to be handled. Some lubricating gels may be suggested. If no physical cause can be seen and the problem appears to be emotional, some counseling may be required. Understanding that when people get married, they are actually two ‘strangers’ trying to get to know each other, should form part of the incentive for slowing down and trying to find out what pleases each member of the union.
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Now to the second issue, lots of couples wishing to have a baby appear to believe that semen flowing out of the vagina signifies a problem and so, they do different things to stop this including, raising the female partner’s legs in the air or even performing a cycling motion. None of these need to be done, really.
A man’s ejaculate is made up of more than just sperm cells. The sperm count in ejaculate (which should be about half to 2 teaspoons in volume) is any number from 20million to several hundreds of millions! That’s a lot of sperm cells for 1 teaspoon, right? Now, when a man ejaculates, the initial force of that pushes some of the semen a significant way into the vagina. The rest of it flows back. In case you’re worried about the semen that flows back, just like the person who asked this question, the truth is that you don’t need more than 1 sperm cell to fertilize an egg.
Some sperm cells are retained at the back of the vagina, some make it all the way to the cervix and some others get into the uterus and make the trip into the fallopian tubes to fertilize an egg. And in addition, these sperm cells can remain alive and active for even up to 3 to 5 days after intercourse, depending on conditions. So, if there was no egg to fertilize at the time of intercourse, if the woman ovulates within this window of 3 to 5 days, she could still very well get pregnant.
Now, if you have been trying for up to one year to have a baby with no luck, please see your doctor and let him evaluate you and your partner. Analysis of the semen with sperm count etc will be helpful in defining course of treatment.
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Have a great night, y’all 😀