A: Hi Doc, can I ask a question about what causes a
men not ‘to sperm’ while having sexual intercourse and how can that be treated?
A: Of course you can ask a question and as it turns out, you
already did! 😀
In a male, ‘not sperming’ as you call it, could be due to a condition called anejaculation. Anejaculation is a situation in which there is failure of ejaculation. It can be primary (in which case it is present at birth and is a lifelong condition) or it could be secondary, as appears to be the situation here. In secondary anejaculation, the problem is acquired. The same conditions that cause retrograde ejaculation are also suspect here. Retrograde ejaculation (RE), refers to backward ejaculation. To understand this, a refresher course on how ejaculation happens is needed:
Usually, during
ejaculation, the muscle at the neck of the bladder tightens ensuring that semen
does not enter the bladder. In people with this problem, this muscle does not
tighten enough to prevent backtrack of the semen into the bladder. So, in these
people, their ejaculate during intercourse is usually very little (sometimes
almost non-existent, even though they certainly know they have had an orgasm)
or their urine after sexual intercourse cloudy as a result of the sperm going
into the bladder and mixing with urine.
Retrograde
ejaculation does not interfere with a person’s ability to enjoy sexual
intercourse, have and maintain an erection or even climax. Usually, these
people would show up in the clinic because of infertility.
RE and secondary
anejaculation can start after a surgery on the bladder or prostate; it can
occur as a side effect of some anti-hypertensive drugs (drugs used to treat
hypertension), or as a complication of some surgeries or medical conditions
like Diabetes Mellitus, multiple sclerosis or spinal cord injury. A few people
are actually born with a weakness of this muscle that closes the neck of the
bladder during ejaculation.
During the
refractory phase of the sexual response cycle, it is also not possible for a
man to achieve orgasm. To better understand this, a quick class There are 4 phases of
the sexual response cycle: excitement, plateau, orgasm (climax) and resolution
(when the body returns to its normal functioning). After resolution, men
usually need recovery time. During this period (refractory period), the man
cannot achieve another orgasm. This period may last for minutes, hours or even
days…the older one gets, the longer the refractory period.
If RE or secondary
anejaculation is caused by medications, your doctor may consider changing them
or stopping them for a while. Otherwise, there are some drugs used to ensure
the neck of the bladder is closed during ejaculation. Your doctor will weigh
their side effects against their potential benefits in deciding whether to
prescribe them to you or not. For those who desire babies, your doctor will
also discuss options of ‘harvesting’ sperm to be used on your spouse.
For spinal cord
injuries, the ejaculatory pathway may be intact or there may be need for penile
vibratory stimulation depending on the level of the injury.
His doctor should
be able to take a proper history, carry out a detailed examination and make a
proper diagnosis.
In females, ‘fluid
not coming out’ could be due to vaginal dryness. Vaginal dryness can occur due
to variety of reasons and at any age. Usually the vagina has a thin film of
fluid that coats it. This fluid helps lubrication during sexual intercourse,
maintains the normal environment of the vagina preventing the overgrowth of
organisms like fungi, flushing out dead cells and menstrual blood. The level of
this fluid/moisture varies with the level of estrogen released in the body.
During sexual intercourse, there is increased blood flow to the vaginal area
leading to an increase in the volume of moisture. During menopause, however,
the level of estrogen is very low leading to vaginal dryness, loss of
elasticity and thinning.
The main
consequence of vaginal dryness is the fact that it affects sex life such that
these women experience significant pain and sometimes, bleeding. Other problems
that vaginal dryness could cause include soreness, itching and burning around
the vaginal area, recurrent urinary tract infections and frequency of urinating
etc.
There are other conditions, other than menopause that can lead
to low estrogen and consequent vaginal dryness. They include childbirth, breast
feeding, cigarette smoking, some medications (like anti-estrogen drugs used to
treat cancer) and douching. Douching refers to the practice of cleaning the
vagina with a ‘cleansing’ fluid. For more on this topic, please click on this
link: https://chatwithdrketch.com/2014/09/30/daily-health-tips-what-is-douching/
Other very common
causes of vaginal dryness include a lack of foreplay during sexual intercourse,
feelings of guilt, relationship issues, allergy etc.
Treatment depends
on cause. If it’s due to low estrogen, the focus would be on replacing this
either through Hormone Replacement therapy or through the insertion of estrogen
pessaries (tablets, cream or ring) into the vagina) should help. If due to
rushed foreplay, there should be a conscious effort to slow down allow enough
time for foreplay and sometimes, discussion with the partner may be helpful.
Avoid heavily perfumed products like sanitary towels, tissues etc which may
lead to irritation of the vagina and subsequent dryness etc.
I hope this helps.