Q: During my first and second trimester, I used to have active sex, but not now anymore, since 8 months upward. During the earlier stage, I do use missionary position, and my hubby do sleep on me sometimes, hope it can have caused any issue for the baby ma’am? However, I don’t feel anything of such, but I am just thinking about the baby’s condition inside me. So that it won’t cause any deformity whatsoever. I’m disturbed whenever I think about those early active sex activities.
In addition, I have not used any folic acid since inception of the
pregnancy, may God forgive me. If at the
nine months now, that I am even expecting that I should have deliver, and have
not yet. Can I go for folic acid? Does it have any contribution anymore?
Thank you ma’am
A: Sex is generally considered safe during pregnancy. Except the doctor has noted some medical issues that may cause some restrictions on sexual intercourse, couples can generally continue to have sexual intercourse during pregnancy.
Having said that, it doesn’t mean that every woman wants to indulge 😀 Unfortunately, no. Some women experience increased libido, some decreased libido and some are just completely exhausted by their itinerary (wife, worker, sister, daughter, intending mother, worries about the pregnancy or intending birth, care of already existing children, if she has them etc) that sex is the farthest thing on their minds, most times. So, where’s the solution or compromise? Communication lines between couples have to be open. The husband needs to understand what’s going on in the mind and body of his wife. Providing emotional and tangible support by helping her out with some chores/activities, providing a daily evening massage….which becomes something wifey can look forward to, can help create the right mood. Remember that for women, sexual Intercourse starts from the emotional before it gets to the physical 😀 Couples can also explore different positions or other means of sexual intimacy apart from sexual intercourse.
Some issues that may cause a doctor to issue some restrictions on sexual activity include:
· Threat of a miscarriage
· History of pre-term labour
· Unexplained bleeding in pregnancy
· Cervical incompetence (where the mouth of the womb is open leading to a risk of miscarriage) etc
If you’re not sure whether you belong to any of these groups or not, please ask your obstetrician.
Now, there also some risky activities during sexual intercourse in pregnancy:
· If you indulge in oral sex, hubby please do not blow into your wife’s vagina as this can lead to an air bubble being lodged in a blood vessel causing problems in mother and/or baby
· Having STI with an infected partner can lead to STI in pregnant mum. This infection can be transmitted to the baby. So, hubbies be sure that you stay faithful
· Anal sex is also discouraged.
World Health Organization recommends that pregnant women receive folic acid and iron tablets daily. Folic acid prevents neural tube defects which may occur during the first 28days of pregnancy. This is usually the period when quite a number of women do not even know they are pregnant. Thus, women who plan on getting pregnant should start on folic acid supplements at least 3 months before their planned date to safeguard against neural tube defects. If you haven’t started this earlier, start taking them as soon as possible. Where in doubt, speak to your doctor.
All the best 😀