Q: Can someone who is 4 days late with sore nipple or tender breast continue to have sex if she is trying to conceive? Though it hasn’t been confirmed if it’s -ve or +ve.
A: Hi dear, even if you have been confirmed pregnant, you can continue to have sex.
There are many different causes of nipple pain and they include:
• Vigorous rubbing of the nipples. This would usually heal without incident and applying a moisturizer will help the process.
• Friction: In this case, not wearing a bra or wearing a poorly fitted bra during exercise routines may lead to rubbing of the nipples against the fabric and consequent soreness/pain. Wearing a proper
• Sensitivity to the weather (hot or cold), certain fabrics, detergents or even creams/lotions may lead to nipple pain. If this is caused by specific detergents or creams, you may have to change them.
• Hormonal changes as can occur close to a woman’s menstrual period. This pain will usually disappear after a few days.
• Pregnancy and breastfeeding can also lead to this condition. In pregnancy, the pregnancy hormones lead to the nipples being extra sensitive and during breastfeeding, the baby may not latch on well to the nipple, there could be blocked ducts or mastitis or breast abscess etc leading to pain. During pregnancy, be sure to choose bras made with fabric that can ‘breath’ like cotton. And during breastfeeding, be sure to get help with making sure you know how to put baby to the breast to prevent sore nipples etc.
• Cancer (Paget’s disease of the breast) can also be a cause of nipple pain.
So, where in doubt…especially if you have tried to rule out the causes above, please see your doctor.
Sex is generally considered safe during pregnancy. Except the doctor has noted some medical issues that may cause some restrictions on sexual intercourse, couples can generally continue to have sexual intercourse during pregnancy.
Having said that, it doesn’t mean that every woman wants to indulge 😀 Unfortunately, no. Some women do experience increased libido, some decreased libido and some are just completely exhausted by their itinerary (wife, worker, sister, daughter, intending mother, worries about the pregnancy or intending birth, care of already existing children, if she has them etc) that sex is the farthest thing on their minds, most times. So, where’s the solution or compromise? Communication lines between couples have to be open. The husband needs to understand what’s going on in the mind and body of his wife. Providing emotional and tangible support by helping her out with some chores/activities, providing a daily evening massage….which becomes something wifey can look forward to, can help create the right mood. Remember that for women, sexual Intercourse starts from the emotional before it gets to the physical 😀 Couples can also explore other means of sexual intimacy apart from sexual intercourse.
Some issues that may cause a doctor to issue some restrictions on sexual activity include:
Threat of a miscarriage
History of pre-term labour
Unexplained bleeding in pregnancy
Cervical incompetence (where the mouth of the womb is open leading to a risk of miscarriage) etc
If you’re not sure whether you belong to any of these groups or not, please ask your obstetrician.
Now, there also some risky activities during sexual intercourse in pregnancy:
If you indulge in oral sex, hubby please do not blow into your wife’s vagina as this can lead to an air bubble being lodged in a blood vessel causing problems in mother and/or baby
Having STI with an infected partner can lead to STI in pregnant mum. This infection can be transmitted to the baby. So, hubbies be sure that you stay faithful
Anal sex is also discouraged.
In your case, please see your doctor to confirm if you are pregnant or use a pregnancy test kit. If your nipples are sore, be sure to gently communicate this to your partner so that he is extra gentle during sexual intercourse.
All the best 🙂