Q: Hi Doc, please I want to know if it’s possible for a man masturbating to produce offspring.
More so, I want to know, if after a year of masturbating one can stop it? Can the man still have the chance of producing fertility or offspring? I hope to hear from you soon, Dr Ketch. Thanks
A: Thanks for writing in. There are different bodies of research that say different things about the ability of one who masturbates frequently to have babies. Some research suggests abstaining from ejaculation for at least, 2 or 3 days before sexual intercourse promotes a man’s chances of having the optimal sperm quality. Another body of research, however, points to the fact that provided a man has good sperm quality, it does not matter how often he ejaculates…the sperm concentration and motility will still be optimal.
Can you stop masturbating? Of course, you can. Excessive masturbation can lead to soreness of the genitals and in males can lead to swelling which would typically disappear within a day or two. Enjoying sexual intercourse the ‘normal’ way may also become a problem as people become used to experiencing sexual release in this way.
By the way, if one is masturbating with another person, there is the possibility of an STI if objects (sex toys) are shared and/or if there is some exchange of body fluids.
All the mails I’ve received on masturbation, contain a common thread, that of feeling guilty. Some are also accompanied by a sense of low self-esteem which may have pre-dated this leading to excessive shyness and preference for masturbation, as opposed to talking to members of the opposite sex. The real challenge here is that there is nobody to talk to about these issues as we all tend to judge the people involved. The unfortunate fall out is that anxiety and depression may not be far behind if this cycle of guilt and low esteem is not addressed.
Any activity that holds one a prisoner of his/her desires has to be mastered. It has to be controlled otherwise, it rules the person’s life. Imagine being a slave to your sexual desires! :O And if this is accompanied by negative feelings like guilt, anxiety, depression etc, then it has to be decisively dealt with.
Counseling would be the way to go…I don’t know any of help groups here in Nigeria. I will make enquiries though. Or find someone who you feel you can trust and talk to. This person could be someone from home, church etc However, it’s important that people seeking help for any kind of issue, are not judged by anyone…from church or from other social circles. We all try to act as if we’re all holy and wonderful people but we all struggle with different stuff, just like every other person 🙂 Empathy is key here.
It is important to find out the why…what makes me want to do this again and again? What feeling am I trying to achieve? What am I trying to avoid? Indeed, going cold turkey and just deciding to stop could very well happen after this.
For more on this topic, please click on this link: https://chatwithdrketch.com/2014/08/05/daily-health-tips-depression-masturbation-and-over-protective-parenting/
Have a good night, people 😀