Q: Good evening ma’am. Please, I need advice. How can I select the sex of my child because I need a male child. I don’t have any gynecological problem…just a boy child. Thanks.

A: Dear Madam, you are quite fortunate that you have no gynecological problem. Of every 10 women who present to hospital, at least 1-2 of them will have a gynecological problem.
In the African setting, a lot of emphasis is placed on the male child. I can appreciate that you may be going through a lot of pressure. However, I would want you to know that children are gifts from God, and sex selection is not determined by you or anyone else. The selection process is done by Him.

Scientifically, there are the X and Y chromosomes. Each individual has two sex chromosomes. XX in females and XY in males. During fertilization, one chromosome is derived from each parent. Usually the Y chromosome is derived from the male (because they alone have the Y chromosome) and the woman can only give the X chromosome (because she has just X chromosomes). If the Y chromosome is not donated or selected from the male during the fertilization process, then a female child is formed, on the other hand, if the Y chromosome is selected(from the male/father), then a male child is formed.

In my opinion, it’s not really the sex of the child that matters, but how you raise them and make them your pride at all times. I am from a family of five girls and we all have made our parents proud; with 3 medical doctors, an engineer and a psychology undergraduate. I have retained my father’s name and added it to my husband’s name, just to ensure the name doesn’t ‘die’ as is believed in the absence of a male child.

There are quite a number of unconventional methods for the selection of the sex of your child, having to do with meeting your husband at particular periods of your menstrual cycle. However, these have not been backed up by research and I cannot guarantee its effectiveness. Modern scientific research has also made sex selection possible, during invitro fertilization. This is however, very expensive and not readily available.

I hope you are able to and appreciate the beautiful blessings God has given you and find peace and satisfaction with whatever God grants you, whether male or female….a blessed child is the ultimate 😀 Cheers!

****This post was contributed by a guest doctor blogger.

Have a great night, beautiful people 😀