Q: Dr ma’am, please is anything wrong with oral sex? I need your secret advice. Thanks ma’am. My hubby likes it, but I don’t.

A: Dear all, I need to keep re-iterating that this is a safe place. I do not mention the names of people who send questions to me. If the questions contain personal information, I edit to ensure that confidentiality is maintained. Each person’s question provides an opportunity to educate thousands of other people. I’d also like to mention that while we all believe that our questions are unique, there’s really no question I have received on this page that I haven’t got at least 2 or 3 times before. So, relax y’all 😀 Nobody knows who you are…and by sharing your question, we help others!

Okay, oral sex is something that always used to be regarded as being done by ‘bad girls’ but it has become mainstream as couples have become more open about their likes and dislikes in the bedroom. So, is anything wrong with oral sex? Not really…it is a matter of like(s) and dislike(s).

It is important to discuss this with your husband. Both of you should have an understanding of what each party likes in the bedroom. This should be in an atmosphere of love (of course) and each party should be open about their feelings. Methinks that the days of not wanting to open up about sexual likes and dislikes by women, should long be past as this area of marriage is very important and can make or mar 😀 Perhaps, all it takes is getting used to it 😉 or stopping before ejaculation etc. So, have a frank talk with hubby about this and perhaps you both can arrive at a compromise on how to make this work.

Now, this post on oral sex will not be complete without mentioning some myths about oral sex. Some people believe that with this, they are safe from Sexually Transmitted Infections. True? False! The risk is even higher if the person performing oral sex has cuts, bruises or sores in the mouth or gum. Brushing the teeth just before this could also lead to bruised gums which makes by infected with an STI easier.

What STIs are involved? All the usual suspects: Gonorrhea, Syphilis, Hepatitis A, B and C (I trust y’all know these can be contracted through sexual intercourse?), HIV etc One could also be exposed to the Human Papilloma Virus which could lead to cancer of the mouth (oral cancer). Most people are not aware but condoms can also be used during oral sex to prevent STIs.

So, there you have it all. The good, the bad and the not very pretty 😀

Have a good night y’all 😀