Q: Hi Doc, I need help. I lost my baby in February this year and what should I do to conceive again because I am not on family planning

A: Oh sweetheart, condolences. I feel really sad that this happened, but trust me, this too shall pass J Now I don’t know at what stage you lost this pregnancy or if this was the first instance of miscarriage you’ve had. Whatever be the case, this is one of those instances when you have to work closely with your doctor to get back to trying for a baby again.

There are no standard answers really, as to when to start. If this is the first time you’re experiencing a miscarriage, some doctors still advice people to wait 3 to 6 months before trying again so that it’s easier to date the pregnancy etc. Others will just ask you to wait until you’ve had one menstrual period. Be sure to ask your doctor to explain the reason for any recommendation he eventually comes up with so that you understand every step of the process.

If, however, this is not the first time, you may have to go in for some tests to check whether the issue is with hormones, genetics or problems with the uterus.

What to do before you start trying again? Be sure to eat healthy…lots of fruits and vegetables and exercise. Limit caffeine and keep your weight within normal limits. You can start taking folic acid supplements now, even before you get pregnant.

The basic rules of trying to get pregnant also apply: make sure you have sexual intercourse at least 3 times a week (with ejaculation of a significant quantity of semen).

It is normal to feel worried and a bit scared going into another pregnancy, but you have to trust that all will work out well this time. Surround yourself with good professionals (OBGYN) and loving family/friends. Then relax and enjoy the ride 😀

Please write in anytime and let me know if there are other questions you have.

Have a good night y’all 😀